psyche29: Emma Watson with her head to the side and mouth wide open in a laugh, text "laugh" (laugh)
FB memories today shows me an update I made 02/24/2011:

Puberty discussion w/ Boychild tonight. I said an egg is about the size of a period at the end of a sentence.

Boychild wants perspective: "Yeah, but what font?"


Still one of the damn funniest things he has ever uttered!
psyche29: little girl watching something with an uncertain look on her face (mary secret garden)
Thank you for all your thoughts and suggestions regarding Boychild. There were several points made that I would not have considered on my own, and I really, really appreciate the support, no matter how large or small.

I called his health plan's member services today to ask them where and how to start. We don't need a referral for this kind of thing according to them, so I said where I'd like to take him, they told me it was perfectly okay to take him there, and gave me a phone number. The clinic is closed on Fridays, so I'll be calling them on Monday to start the ball rolling.

I am anxious to get going, and - somewhat selfishly - to stop being upset with him so much. He seems to have inherited several of the issues my sister deals with, which just adds a whole new level of irritation for me. He is different enough, though, that I don't look at him and only see my sister, so that's something.

I am aware that this is very vague and that the way I explain things is not quite chronological or coherent; I always find I'm leaving things out. There are so many feelings and thoughts that go into everything that I'm not certain I know the best way to lay them out. I'm not averse to discussing anything, so if you're curious or have a question, by all means, ask.

And if you don't, that's okay, too. ;)

I think I better think up a tag for this. And maybe go get some hair dye, because there are more white ones there than I am willing to continue seeing.

HELP.

Dec. 1st, 2012 02:59 pm
psyche29: A brown eye with rainbow eyeliner all around it (harder to breathe)
Okay, so.

I am feeling stupid and useless and sheepish and embarrassed about this. I shouldn't, it's not my fault, it's not his fault, blah blah blah, but--.

Does anybody have any knowledge or suggestions or experience or opinions with getting a child tested for possible mental or emotional disorders?

I am--. I don't even know how to explain. I DON'T UNDERSTAND THIS.

Boychild is fourteen years old, but there is so very little he does that makes me think he is developing normally. Hubby is finally starting to see my point, and I just. I don't know what to do. Do I take him to his regular doctor first? It's not physical, but does that matter? I am just at a loss.

This kid cannot ever answer a question with more than "I don't know" or "Meh" and a shrug. When we ask him what he's thinking, he is at a loss for words and cannot tell us. He hates reading, sincerely believes we are punishing him when we expect him to do so, but swears up one side and down the other that reading is not hard for him. He cannot understand vocabulary that I know eight-year-olds can grasp (he had to ask today what "extra-mild" meant!!!!), and his social skills are on par with kindergarteners.

I love that he is a fairly happy kid, but he is FOURTEEN, not six!! I love that he is not embarrassed to be seen with us and that he is affectionate and loving, but he thinks it is appropriate to group hug in the middle of a grocery store aisle and giggles like a lunatic when we try to inform him seriously that now is not the time. Which, of course, makes me feel like a slug. BUT FOURTEEN!!!

He repeatedly tells the same jokes over and over again, long after everyone is sick and tired of hearing them, and never grasps that no one is laughing anymore. Then he gets upset when someone tells him it's not funny anymore and says that no one ever thinks he's funny! I don't get it!

We still have to tell him - every single morning - that he must put on deodorant. He has needed to do so since he was nine. Should he not be doing it on his own by now? We have to remind him, and then he does it extremely grudgingly. He likes showers, but has never once taken one of his own volition. We have to tell him to do so, and he sighs like we're expecting him to bring us the moon. He seems perfectly happy being filthy. How is that even remotely normal for a teenage boy?

He continues to do things we've repeatedly asked him not to do, and laughs like it's hilarious when we get upset that he's doing it again.

I feel so angry with him all the time, and I hate it so much. But I feel that this goes so far beyond my own impatience. There is something so very, very wrong, and I don't know where to start looking for help. Looking at the criteria list for ADD and ADHD, I think that he doesn't hit the ADHD requirements, but he does hit every. single. item. on the ADD list, but I just don't think that explains everything.

So. Please. Tell me your thoughts. Tell me your experiences if applicable, and your ideas and suggestions. I am starting to think that we must be unfit parents. I'm not looking for reassurance or accolades or anything like that, just-. I am so not equipped for this. Help us. Please. If he needs help, I want to get it for him. I just don't know how.

Hello.

Nov. 12th, 2012 11:49 am
psyche29: A brown eye with rainbow eyeliner all around it (glow)
Wow, it's been a while. Which, of course, I say every time I post, and it doesn't encourage me to post more often. *rolls eyes at self*

Nothing too much is new; work is as beastly and deplorable as ever, so I'm viewing and applying for other positions every week.

Hubby and Boychild are both in good health and happy. Boychild is trying wrestling this winter at school - we don't have the slightest idea why, but hey, it's exercise. He'll do tennis again in the spring.

My parents and sister were approved to move into our apartment complex, and they actually got to have the one right across the hall from us. This is a really awesome thing, and so we've been busy helping them move in bit by bit each weekend lately. We both leave our doors unlocked during the day, which enables us to just go back and forth between the two apartments. They don't have a microwave yet, so they come over to use ours; if someone's in one bathroom, we can go across the hall to use the other one. It's just really nice, too, having them right there.

We've also been going to the Y when we can. Not often lately, but things have calmed a little, so we're going to try a few visits this week. We all love the pool, though we're going to try more with the weights, too.

Finally got a new library card (my wallet was stolen a couple years ago and I just never replaced the card), so we've been in and out of the library again. Have a few books on hold, but can't pick them up till tomorrow. Hubby's getting both The Zombie Survival Guide: Complete Protection From the Living Dead and World War Z: An Oral History of the Zombie War (Max Brooks), and I'm getting Dreams From My Father (Barack Obama), What's So Amazing About Grace (Philip Yancey) and His Majesty's Dragon (Naomi Novik). I hear so many good things about the Temeraire series, I decided it was high time I looked it up and tried it. Thoughts?

I should really update my reading list here, but will wait on that one - formatting takes too long and I am too lazy at the moment.

In the meantime, I've been reading lots of Narnia fic, specifically [livejournal.com profile] rthstewart's work on both AO3 and ff.net - it is fantastic stuff and so worth the time it's taken to get through it all. The world-building is phenomenal and the writing exceptional.

I don't think I've anything else to report. How is everyone?
psyche29: A brown eye with rainbow eyeliner all around it (rainbow eyes)
Having such a lovely time, really pleased so far. Here, have a few pictures.

Nine hours in the sunshine and the pool brings out those freckles like whoa.
Image and video hosting by TinyPic

My niece is made of sweet potatoes, and my God, I could not get enough of her. Neither could Hubby - open-mouth baby kisses are just the best, no?
Image and video hosting by TinyPic

Here they are again:
Image and video hosting by TinyPic

She finally passed out after seven hours or so:
Image and video hosting by TinyPic

Of course, this is what "not sleeping" looks like when Boychild does it. You know, every time.
Image and video hosting by TinyPic

And we stopped in DC yesterday and thrilled Boychild with a trip up to the Washington Monument. He was dying to take a picture, and he got several, including this one.
Image and video hosting by TinyPic


Vacation is going well, and we're looking forward to visits with my grandfather and great aunt today. I LOVE vacation.
psyche29: A brown eye with rainbow eyeliner all around it (earth laughs in flowers)
It's Friday, it's payday, and I'm mostly relaxed. My irritating coworker is gone today and I'm looking forward to the weekend - even if tonight's adventures include Thing 1 and Thing 2 spending the night at our place with Boychild. I foresee much noise and probably a bit of shushing, among other things.

Sarah, mother of Things 1 & 2, just had surgery on Monday. She had a melanoma on the bottom of her pinky toe, and had to have a biopsy and then most of the pinky toe amputated. The biopsy on the lymph nodes and surrounding areas came back negative, thankfully. Even so, we're giving her a bit of a quiet break by taking the boys overnight, which is nice for both her and Boychild, even if noisy for hubby and I.

Think I'll make this for family dinner on Sunday - sounds full of awesome.

Just got off the phone with my sister; apparently, Dad just missed the last step at home and is being seen right now for a swelling ankle. Shit. He already can't walk very well - although truth be told, that surgery has done wonders for him. He's lost over 70 pounds now, and was doing better. We'll have to see what the doc says; might have to do dinner at their place on Sunday instead!

Hope everyone has a lovely weekend!
psyche29: A brown eye with rainbow eyeliner all around it (rainbow eyes)
I am flailing a bit at the thought of typing up All The Words. I haven't posted in ages, it seems - indeed, I am not even certain when my last post WAS. Summer. Probably.

Shall we see if I can sumarize?

1. Boychild started seventh grade and turned 13. Same curriculum, but new school, new approach to classes (he's got eight different ones and has to move between them, whereas in previous years it's been one teacher and mostly the same classroom). There has been much struggling, both for him and for us, and tears on both sides to prove it. Things are smoothing out some now, but it's going to be a work in progress.

A little grainy, as I saved it from hubby's FB with my phone, sorry... )

2. Work is...better. I am still swamped, both overloaded and manager-admitted-underpaid, but-. Changes - big ones - are in the works. I just got my yearly review today, and it was actually really, really good. I was given more info than my other coworkers are being given because the manager is expecting bigger things from me. As a result, I feel very secure in my position, and am aware that doors will be opened in various ways soon, and all I have to do is step through them. I can be open minded, and he is aware that he'll need to give me details in some areas. I'm not feeling the need to seek employment elsewhere, so as far as I'm concerned, things are looking so much better than they were a year ago, even six months ago.

3. Dad had gastric bypass at the beginning of September. He's lost 70 pounds so far, has already lost several clothing sizes, is back into a belt he hasn't been able to use for five years, and is *this far* from being considered "no longer diabetic." This is a HUGE deal, and means that the surgery was really the right thing for him.

4. Sister number three (child number four of the five of us) went through extensive psychiatric testing over the last several months, and the results are in - she will never be able to hold down any kind of meaningful work, or be a functioning member or society. She will probably always live with my parents. While the diagnosis vexes me (I do not pretend to understand how depression or mental illness work), at least now she can apply for disability benefits and possibly bring in *something* to help with my parents' expenses.

5. Sister number two (child three) had her baby girl at the end of August. Eja Alessandra was born 25 August at 12:30 AM EST, 5 pounds, 10.2 ounces and 19 inches long. She was healthy at birth and mom came through it better than her first one. A day later, some kind of enzyme or something stopped working or started working or (Jesus, can we tell I'm not even remotely clued in to illness-related stuff?!) whatever, and baby had a partially collapsed lung, among other things. It was touch and go for a couple days, and then my sister and her hubby moved the baby to a children's hospital, where she immediately began improving. God bless children's hospitals, as well as their incredible staff!! Eja is happy and healthy now, and getting bigger each day.

A few pictures of my pretty niece! )

6. Try not to pass out with this news: I am going to the doctor today. Not for most of the things I should also probably be seen for, but-. Last month, my right elbow started hurting. It only took a day or two for it to shift and spread down the outer part of my forearm and into my outer wrist and the ring and pinky fingers.

It's affecting my work speed; it hurts to add more than a couple pages of figures. Typing too long hurts. Sometimes writing - the act of holding the pen itself - hurts. And lots of other things are affected, too: I can't really open my own soda bottles anymore, or lift a pot of pasta to drain it, etc. I get out of having to help carry in the groceries, but that's not exactly a trade-off I can fully enjoy, as it hurts to do a host of other things I never actually realized used those particular areas.

I had to wait to be seen, unfortunately, but the day is here, so we'll see what's what, hopefully. Everything I've read points me away from carpal tunnel and mostly in the direction of tennis elbow, but again - we'll see what's what.

On the TMI scale... )

7. We had our week at the lake in August, which was lovely, and we just had a long weekend up in Duluth, which for the first time ever was GORGEOUS, weather-wise. I would LOVE to live up there. I never, ever get tired of it, even in the rain and gloom and snow. There weren't many leaves left on the trees, but the ones that were there were that stunning autumn red.

8. I've been writing quite a bit, working on my next-gen HP piece I started years ago. I'm revamping quite a bit and writing new scenes, too, and enjoying every second of it. Speaking of HP, one of these days I should post another of my one-shots.

9. Um. I think that's everything? If you'd like me to expand on anything, please let me know! I am reading entries, but haven't commented in ages; I will work on that, but am making no promises as we head into the ever-busy holiday season. Please know that I read you all and am thinking about you. ♥
psyche29: A brown eye with rainbow eyeliner all around it (earth laughs in flowers)
Hubby put a new OS on my phone, so I thought maybe I'd try posting photos a little more often to keep it a little more organized.

The last week, in pictures. )

In other news, it's the weekend! Very happy about this. Tomorrow, it will be exactly 4 weeks till we leave for the lake. Looking SO forward to it; I can already feel myself winding down. Better warn my boss. *hee*
psyche29: A brown eye with rainbow eyeliner all around it (tastes like happy)
I've been promising pictures for quite a while, but just never managed to get them off my phone...till now.

And as it's been many, many moons since the last time I really posted any, there are a TON. While epic picspams are certainly awesome, they are very time-consuming to put together, so I'm abbreviating them to the most pertinent pictures.

Pics under the cut! )

And that, my friends, is the seriously abridged version of the massive amounts of pictures I pulled off my phone and camera. ;)
psyche29: A brown eye with rainbow eyeliner all around it (rainbow eyes)
Seriously, this winter has just been hanging on and hanging on. It's been Spring for a month and we've had snow several times since then.

Which, yes, I know is fairly common around here, but still. I love Winter, I love snow, I love the cold - but even I have my limits. I am ready to stop putting on socks every day, and to stop wearing a bulky coat.

This was Wednesday morning where I live. )

Just. Yikes. NEED SPRING, PLEASE.

I haven't posted in a while - last time, I left y'all with woe about our car. Things are better now, I'm just finally taking a moment to post.

Car and California. )

Foooood. )

What is the world coming to? )

Haircut! )

OK, I think that's it for now; I will have to come back with pictures next time from California, and of my hair. I hope y'all are having a nicer warm-up for Spring than we are (I know, Wisconsin, believe me - I know), and hopefully I will be back here more often to post. XD.
psyche29: A brown eye with rainbow eyeliner all around it (harder to breathe)
So OK, I'm just hyperventilating a little while I wait for this phone call.

Cut for story of woe and maybe a little bit of hope. )

I feel like a never-ending story of tragedy - I really have to post about positive things once in a while. I'll work on it. :)
psyche29: pale green background with text "i need to be drunker" (drunker)
So, first things first:

HAPPY NEW YEAR!!
I wish all the best for each of you this year!


And now with that said, as far as I'm concerned, 2011 can JUST GO FUCK ITSELF.

Some of you already know about my year so far, but most of you don't, so here, quick recap:

New Year's Eve was rung in with me in bed with a moaning and groaning, tummy-achy Boychild. He was puking and couldn't do a number 2, and didn't want anything touching his belly. We thought it was very similar to his stomach flu last April, and called the nurse line on Saturday morning (New Year's Day) to get an opinion. They told us to go to the Children's hospital to the ER because it might be appendicitis.

Sure enough, Boychild had his appendix out that evening - and apparently, so did my aunt. How weird is that?!

Anyway, we spent that night in the hospital, went home the next day. Kept him home Monday, and Tuesday, and were back in the ER Tuesday night because he was having pain that wasn't getting better. After six hours or so, some pee in a cup, some Xrays and a few CAT scans, everything was normal and we went back home. Stayed home with him again Wednesday.

Over those few days, a nasty cold was developing for me, and while we sent Boychild back to school on Thursday, I stayed home because I was feverish and lightheaded from all the coughing. Managed two hours of work on Friday before being ordered home by the manager.

Felt better Saturday. Had some fabulously authentic El Salvador cuisine for lunch, enjoyed some time bumming around a bit. Got the ingredients I was missing for making chorag (Armenian tea bread) - which turned out gorgeously for a first attempt on Sunday, thankyouverymuch - and just generally had a really nice day on Saturday till 7:30 PM, when MY WALLET WAS STOLEN.

We actually don't know if it fell out of my coat pocket and someone found it or if it was actually grabbed from my pocket, but-.

They cleaned out our bank account over the course of Saturday evening and Sunday (yesterday). Apparently, I didn't really think people could be so carelessly indecent, which is why I'm so, so upset over this.

Canceled the check card Sunday morning and filed a police report, went through the motions.

So anyway, went to the bank this morning right when it opened, and they've been very good to us. Started the process, reversed all the charges and resulting overdraft fees; they'll also keep an eye on still-pending transactions for us, and the girl gave us her card and told us to also keep our eyes on it and let her know anything that seems off.

In the Small Favors department, my Social Security card was NOT in there, and we didn't have credit cards in there. Some debit cards, but they all require a PIN to be used, and the PIN isn't written anywhere. Canceled them anyway to be sure, but am reasonably certain they'd be useless.

Have to go get a new ID this coming weekend, and still call the library, among other places.

Our Relative Custody Assistance check was in my wallet, too, so hopefully the idiots didn't try cashing it; we'll have to get it reissued. And of course, the one person I need to talk to about it hasn't bothered to return my call yet.

My head wants to explode. And dammit, I LIKED that wallet.

I've said it once and I will say it again: PEOPLE are my pet peeve.

It's been a terrible, horrible, no-good, very bad YEAR. I think I'll move to Australia.
psyche29: little girl watching something with an uncertain look on her face (mary secret garden)
They've been building offices and moving people around quite a bit up on my floor at work, and today, they finally moved one of my favorite people - whose desk has been near to mine for seven or so years - to the other end of the floor. I'm happy for him, he finally has the space he needs and is away from the constant stress that is my manager (she is not HIS manager).

And I feel suddenly, unimaginably divorced.
psyche29: A brown eye with rainbow eyeliner all around it (rainbow eyes)
1. Dentist appointment went all right yesterday. She tried shooting me up with the Novocaine by herself this time, but apparently, I kept trying to get away from the needle - even with my eyes shut. She ended up giving me more topical numbing stuff and then getting the assistant to come hold my hand and keep me still.

So both fillings are done, which means I'm done now except for regular cleanings, although the dentist did say that my bottom one may end up needing root canal down the road. I'm not too horrified about it; I don't like going to the dentist by any means, but she and her assistant have been so good with me that I'm not panicky about the idea like I might otherwise be.

Since both fillings were in my back right molars, top and bottom, they had to shoot me up with, like, double the Novocaine; something about the bottom ones being deep tissue and they're always harder. So I leave the place and go with hubby to bum around Target till it was time to pick up Boychild from school, and my lips are all dry and icky, right? So I pull out my lip balm and try to put it on. I got the top lip done all right, and half the bottom lip before apparently continuing to draw across the rest of my face. I couldn't feel my lip after about the middle, and of course that whole portion of my face was just as devoid of feeling. I thought hubby was going to wet himself, he was laughing so hard! Which made me laugh, too, and then I promptly forgot how to swallow properly, which was partially because my tongue - also numb - was caught on my teeth on that side and I couldn't tell.

Cue nearly-hysterical laughter in the middle of Target. Image and video hosting by TinyPic

Finally regained all feeling about five hours or so later - and had to dig out the leftover Vicodin from July's root canal because WOW, Novocaine makes me sore!

Feeling all right today, but leery about eating anything really solid, still.

2. All managers and supervisors are out today; it's been lovely up here.

3. My mom's dog didn't need surgery after all; the vet said it should be cleared up with the proper medication, so Christmas is saved for them. I feel like a heel for bitching about it yesterday, but JESUS. You know?

4. I have graphics I need to make this evening, among other things - hopefully I'll remember everything!

5. How is everyone doing this week? ♥

Oops!

Nov. 22nd, 2010 12:50 pm
psyche29: A brown eye with rainbow eyeliner all around it (where the heart is)
I was going to post pictures this weekend, and I completely forgot. So I will post them tonight or tomorrow night, and for now, just do a basic update.

Life, the Universe and Everything. )

8. Back to the grind today, but it's a quiet day, as Evil Manager is out, so I'm enjoying the quiet. I hope everyone is having a lovely Monday!
psyche29: A brown eye with rainbow eyeliner all around it (rainbow eyes)
I will have a picspam at some point this week, hopefully this evening, but we all know my ability to actually do what I intend to do is severly hampered by other distracting things. *rolls eyes at self*

Here, have 3 days' worth of meme!

Day 25 – A First )

Day 26 – Your Fears )

Day 27 – Your Favorite Place )

The 30-Day Meme List )
psyche29: A brown eye with rainbow eyeliner all around it (not being entertained)
God, I am not awake enough to be here today. I've been sitting at my desk all morning, listlessly looking up the info I need and printing here and there. I should have been done with this portion of it an hour and a half ago.

My dad was in Delaware with my grandpa for a month, and his train just got in last night. We went to pick him up, arrived at the train station around 10:45, 11:00. His train's arrival schedule kept getting pushed back and pushed back and pushed back, and it finally pulled in AT TWELVE THIRTY-FIVE.

Needless to say, we were not back home and in bed until about 1:30 this morning. Boychild is probably half asleep in school right now, I'm barely awake here...and lucky hubby gets to be home and napping all he likes, the bum. *shakes head, too tired to be really upset about it*

Only six more days of this meme:

Day 24 – Something That Makes You Cry )

The 30-Day Meme List )
psyche29: Tea in a white cup and saucer, sitting on a pink placemat (tea)
Day 21 – Another Moment )

The 30-Day Meme List )
psyche29: A brown eye with rainbow eyeliner all around it (love shimmers)
Today is my 10th wedding anniversary! I'm so proud of us, I just had to share. Tonight, Boychild will be sleeping at his grandparents' place and hubby and I are going to spend the night at the casino. We got a great deal on a really nice room, and it includes a $10 coupon to use toward dinner (because we are world-class cheap asses, this is a great thing), as well as a coupon that will give us $10 free if we spend $10 in the casino. We don't know if we'll bother with that part or not, but it's cool to have if we do. Hour and a half, and we go! So excited!

Day 17 – Your Favorite Memory )

The 30-Day Meme List )
psyche29: A brown eye with rainbow eyeliner all around it (fairycake)
Weekends are never long enough, are they?

Boychild turned TWELVE on Saturday. He came barreling into our room at 7:30 AM and took a flying leap into the middle of our bed with a shriek and, "IT'S MY BIRTHDAY!!!!!!" This was immediately followed by hugging us both and squeezing his eyes shut and grinning like an idiot while saying, "I'm finally twelve!"

So of course, we promptly wrestled him down and performed the obligatory birthday spankings, during which he shrieked and giggled and squirmed and thrashed as best he could. Then he launched himself back off the bed and went to make himself some pancakes and sausage (we surprised him with one of those microwaveable breakfast things, he's been dying to try one), and ate it in front of the television.

Let me tell you, he milked that "it's my birthday" thing for all it was worth!

We took him and his friends, Tim and Levi, to Grand Slam for a few hours, where they were able to wear themselves out playing lazer tag, bumper cars, mini golf, batting cages and the arcade. Then we went back home for chocolate cupcakes made fresh that morning by moi, and opened a few presents. His grandparents took us for dinner, and we relaxed at home after that.

It felt like a crazy busy day, but looking at it from a couple days away, it was probably one of his calmer birthdays!



And now, the meme... Geez, I didn't just miss a day, did I? *rolls eyes at self* Five days' worth of meme, ahoy!

Day 9 – Your Beliefs )

Day 10 – What You Wore Today )

Day 11 – Your Siblings )

Day 12 – What’s In Your Bag )

Day 13 – This Week )

The 30-Day Meme List )

Profile

psyche29: A brown eye with rainbow eyeliner all around it (Default)
psyche29

March 2017

S M T W T F S
   1234
567891011
12131415161718
192021 22232425
262728293031 

Syndicate

RSS Atom

Tags

Style Credit

Expand Cut Tags

No cut tags
Page generated Jun. 26th, 2017 01:58 am
Powered by Dreamwidth Studios