Why does he always fucking BLINDSIDE me with stuff like this?!

[psyche29]

The short, short version:

I live in my childhood home. It's me, hubby, Mikey, my mom, my dad, and two sisters.

Matt, Mikey and I were fine in an apartment. We moved to the house because Mom hasn't worked since Billy Graham relocated to North Carolina and Dad was struggling to make the mortgage payment. By moving in, we added $700 a month to his income so he wouldn't lose the house.

Then he was laid off from his work, what, two years ago, now? Maybe it's just over one year...

Anyway, he STILL hasn't found a job, doing taxes for H&R Blockhead a third of the year isn't very much, and he's been unable to make the mortgage payments, even with our rent, because he's trying to keep up on other bills.

So a realtor is coming today to talk with him about something about some kind of sale where he's got twelve months to pay off what's owed or the house is no longer his.

When did I learn of this?

Today, when Amanda called because she found something I'd been looking for in the course of tidying the living room.

So now instead of working, I'm ranting here because I'm so, so upset that no one bloody TELLS me anything I might need to know - you know, like, "Oh, you should start looking for someplace else to live," and when I'm done posting this, I'll be busy checking out apartments in our area.

And you know what's even worse? That is the only house, the only place I consider home. I LOVE that house, that neighborhood, that area, I grew up there. And they all know it.

And no one told me.

God, help me.

Comments

[loveweasleys04.livejournal.com]

OMG OH NO!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

That really sucks that no one told you! This is just awful, but do you know if there is time to pull it together yet? Like could he get a job and get the money some how??

Come live by me!! meh, it is probably too ghetto.

[psyche29.livejournal.com]

He won't be able to pull it together, I know that much.

I WANT that house, I have always wanted it. He hates it, couldn't care less, but I have always loved it and my goal would be to stay there and have it be mine. But I don't make enough to manage the mortgage payment AND the bills necessary to keep the house running (i.e. gas, electric, water, garbage, etc.) And feed the three of us.

Living by you would be fabulous! I'm not so worried about ghetto. :) What floor are you on? Are there elevators? And what's your rent? Just curious, I need to start researching. *sigh*

[loveweasleys04.livejournal.com]

:'( I know how you feel. My parents are toying with the idea of selling their house and I would hate to lose it too.

That is WAY too much for one person. *hugs*

We pay 690 for the Large two bedroom. You can also get a med or a small if they are available. Its not so bad when you get used to it. My biggest complaint has been the maintenance issuse. But the apartment we got had all new flooring and it looks really nice and the space can't be beat.

and *hugs* again.

[loveweasleys04.livejournal.com]

Oh and there are 3 bedrooms too and I think those might have 2 baths but I can't remember correctly. :/

[psyche29.livejournal.com]

Was looking at them on rent.com. There are 3-bedroom ones with one bath, and with two baths. 2 beds is fine, too, I just refuse to have a ground floor, but hate the idea of hauling everything up stairs in a move. *sigh* *is lazy*

[loveweasleys04.livejournal.com]

meh, you can throw all the un-fragile stuff onto the balcony :p!

I would definitely go for a second floor than. We could help you!

[psyche29.livejournal.com]

Thanks, Beth - we'll definitely keep it in mind.

*giggles at idea of throwing stuff onto the balcony*

[katyscarlett76.livejournal.com]

Oh honey I'm sorry! *big hugs*

Probably just doing the dad thing and trying to protect you not realising you're a grown-up now and need to know these things. I think to our parents we'll always be five years old!

[psyche29.livejournal.com]

Thanks. *hugs back*

Ahh, that's just the thing, though. For whatever reason - God testing me, cosmic joke, who knows - I have always been more grown up than my mother. He's always been able to speak frankly with me and know I'll understand.

I think it was more of an "embarrassed to let me know" thing. But even so, it doesn't help any. *sigh*

[kazzy24.livejournal.com]

Well bloody hell.

It astounds me that nobody felt it necessary to mention this to you sooner. I really wish there was some way for you to get the money so the house could be yours :(

*sends hugs*

[psyche29.livejournal.com]

Thanks, babe. *hugs back, leans a little bit*

I wish there was, too. *sigh*

[mugglesrock18.livejournal.com]

Meh, I'm sorry I cannot help. :( This really sucks for you - keep us updated. I hope you'll find something soon and maybe it will be even more closer to Beth's!

[psyche29.livejournal.com]

Thanks, Muggs. :)

[wandaxmaximoff.livejournal.com]

Oh honey, I'm so sorry to hear this. *hugs*
My dad pulled a similar stunt on me a few years back, luckily it was only in a flat he was renting, and it gave Ad and I the motivation to rent our own place, so it all worked out for the best in that instance.

I really hope you find a way to keep the house you're in, as I know how much you love it. But if not, I hope you find somewhere else you'll be happpy. The idea of moving closer to Beth sounds good. ^_^

[psyche29.livejournal.com]

Me, too. Thanks, Clare. *hugs back*

[herminia.livejournal.com]

First off, I'm beginning to suspect your posts don't show up on my friends list... because I know what all your icons look like / what to look for, and I never, never, never see your posts until I actually come to your journal, so I'm always at least a few days late on everything. :-/



*hugs* I'm so, so sorry :-/ He was probably embarrassed, right? But that's not really an excuse when your livelihood is at stake. I hope something works out where you're able to keep the house without breaking your back working. :-/

[psyche29.livejournal.com]

You know, I have the same issue on my friends page, but with a different friend. And I cannot for the life of me figure out why. If you stumble across the answer, let me know, please? And no worries about being behind, I don't mind. :)

*hugs back* Thanks. I'm assuming it's embarrassment - and partially the knowledge that losing this place would hurt me far more than it would hurt anyone else. I hope something works out, too, but all we can do is research options and pray, I suppose. Winning the lottery would be too wonderful to actually happen. *rolls eyes*

[kriz29.livejournal.com]

Oh no!! I'm so sorry - I can't believe he didn't tell you! Hopefully it will work out and you'll be able to keep the house! *hugs*

[psyche29.livejournal.com]

*hugs back* Thanks, Kris - I hope so, too.